How to talk to a jerk?
"If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem." Jerks hardly bring any solution but problems and complains one after another.
If you run into notorious jerks in your life, both personal and professional, you are not alone. Dealing with jerks needs maturity and stronger mental strength. Practicing the following tips is helpful:
1) Never lower yourself to the jerk’s level. Try to elevate the conversation to your level, be professional, productive and solution driven.
2) Hear their complaints and acknowledge that you heard them.
3) Ask them for the solution (what needs to be done logically, not emotionally) and go over the consequences of their proposed solution or let them know you are going to evaluate their solution if you are not ready to go over their solutions.
4) Stop the conversation if the jerk starts to bring you down to his/her level.
5) Remind the jerk that you both are on the same team, you are not fighting a battle with him and you are here to collaborate.
6) Stick to ideas. Do not let things get personal.
Some of us are not comfortable confronting others. We tend to accept complaints and allow ourselves to be bullied. Then we complain to others. The problem is that jerks will continue to bully you and drive you in the wrong direction and you have to deal with damages and negative consequences. The best way to deal with jerks is to confront them assertively, keep the conversation positive, try to build a collaborative spirit and discover a logical solution about the problems for which they are adamant.
We would love to hear your tips and experiences in dealing with jerks.
If you run into notorious jerks in your life, both personal and professional, you are not alone. Dealing with jerks needs maturity and stronger mental strength. Practicing the following tips is helpful:
1) Never lower yourself to the jerk’s level. Try to elevate the conversation to your level, be professional, productive and solution driven.
2) Hear their complaints and acknowledge that you heard them.
3) Ask them for the solution (what needs to be done logically, not emotionally) and go over the consequences of their proposed solution or let them know you are going to evaluate their solution if you are not ready to go over their solutions.
4) Stop the conversation if the jerk starts to bring you down to his/her level.
5) Remind the jerk that you both are on the same team, you are not fighting a battle with him and you are here to collaborate.
6) Stick to ideas. Do not let things get personal.
Some of us are not comfortable confronting others. We tend to accept complaints and allow ourselves to be bullied. Then we complain to others. The problem is that jerks will continue to bully you and drive you in the wrong direction and you have to deal with damages and negative consequences. The best way to deal with jerks is to confront them assertively, keep the conversation positive, try to build a collaborative spirit and discover a logical solution about the problems for which they are adamant.
We would love to hear your tips and experiences in dealing with jerks.
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